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6 Things You And Your Husband Should Never Do In Front Of Children

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6 Things You And Your Husband Should Never Do In Front Of Children

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6 things you and your husband should never do in front of children

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Children are innocent souls, who require tender love and attention at all times.

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Now, amidst tons of responsibilities, and deadlines, we often tend to forget that every action or reaction in front of children will have some kind of effect on the child.

 

6 things you and your husband should never do in front of children include:

 

1. Call Names

Statements like: “I had no clue I was in this ALONE!” “Thank you SO MUCH for forgetting again!” “CAN’T YOU get it yourself?…

 

While your child may not be able to explain what sarcasm means, the child is smart and is able to pick up things like pitch, tone, and underlying emotions with which you say a thing.

 

It’s how they will figure out that you did not mean it when you looked at your partner and said, “Oh you’re SUCH a darling!

 

Rule of thumb: You two should be careful about not addressing anyone with any colourful names in front of the children.

 

This is why even sarcasm counts and you should watch out for it.

 

A lot of parents (me inclusive) complain about how kids these days have smart tongues and talk back too often and too much.

 

What we don’t realise is – it is our own sarcasm that the children are picking on and learning to apply.

 

They will know when you are calling names, be it your partner, your sister-in-law, the neighbour, the maid, the school teacher… children will know, even if you try to sugar-coat it.

 

2. Fight

Simply put, fighting is a very juvenile way of working through any kind of situation.

 

Yes! Anger, hurt, pain, disappointment, and all those negative emotions you feel are real.

 

However, there are other, more adult, and constructive ways to deal with these emotions than to engage in a fight with your partner – verbal or physical.

 

If you really think about it, you’ll see that fighting does not resolve anything – it only worsens the mess.

 

And you’ll be surprised at just how much fighting can affect children.

 

According to UNICEF, showing signs of aggression or getting into shrewd arguments or domestic violence in front of the child will lead to the child growing up with similar problems in the future.

 

Showing signs of aggression, being loud or violent in the presence of your child can make your child feel extremely insecure and scared.

 

It might also lead to him/her developing the same habits on growing up.

 

In another study by the University of East Anglia, it was reported that children who grew up in a household with mild to moderate family problems, had smaller cerebellum than other kids.

 

The cerebellum is a part of the brain that is associated with psychiatric illnesses.

 

So, the next time you feel the urge to retort your partner’s words with an equal and opposite force and your child is around, sit your partner down and have an adult, mature conversation with them.

 

See yourselves as each other’s partner in crime. Also, resolve to always approach conflicts in this manner.

 

This will not only remarkably and positively affect your relationship; your child will also learn how to communicate effectively.

 

3. Ignoring Your Partner

Ignoring your partner or family members in any circumstance will increase your child’s emotional instability and leave him more emotionally withdrawn.

Extending this behaviour— ignoring your partner in front of your child, you show your child that this is acceptable behaviour resulting in them ignoring you in return during an argument.

 

4. ‘Getting Busy’

This is another no-brainer.

 

For all obvious reasons, it is a bad idea to have sex when your child is around or to even get too naughty with each other.

 

One of the reasons why children these days are hitting puberty so quickly is the early exposure they are getting to sexually explicit content – through movies, music, TV, and of course, the internet too.

 

We might think they are “too young to understand” and so “it’s no big deal”, but there is a reason even child psychologists always advise against this kind of early exposure.

 

Regardless, undisputed is the fact that children do need to learn how to show love, affection, empathy, and sympathy through healthy physical contact.

 

So, while it is never advisable to get down and dirty, a light physical display of affection is necessary. This helps your child learn this important social and personal skill.

 

This means that you can, and should still feel free to hug your partner, kiss them on the cheek, put your arm around them, or cuddle together.

 

So long as your acts are not overly sexual in nature, physical contact should not be completely eliminated.

 

5. Get High

Series of studies show that children whose parents drink alcohol/smoke in front of them tend to not consider drinking as ‘harmful’ or ‘bad’, and are more likely to start drinking and smoking earlier than other children.

 

In fact, such children are also twice as likely as other children to ‘abuse’ alcohol and cigarettes and binge on them.

 

You’ll be surprised just how much even casual and/or social drinking (and smoking) can affect children.

 

Also Read: 5 Ways To Strengthen Father-Son Relationship

While you may not be indulging in the bottle or the glass too much, and maybe well within your limits for drinking to actually get drunk, children lack the perspective and maturity to understand this, hence the reason it is best to keep the bottle (and the glass) away when your child is around.

 

For house parties, ensure you hold off on the drinking till your child is asleep.

 

For social drinking, try staying away from alcohol altogether. But if that’s not going to be possible, do not take your children along for such parties.

 

6. Bribery

It goes without saying that giving or receiving bribes in front of your child is an ethical thing you and your spouse should never do in front of your child/ren.

 

Bribing can be a tempting method to change your quickly get out of trouble, save yourself time, or get a little ahead but the effects are real on your child watching and collecting data.

 

Bribing to a kid or in front of a kid retards their overall mental development and sends him/her a message that cutting corners means can help him survive in the world.

 

While taking care of your family, and doing your best to survive especially in this part of the world, an action like bribing can have a long-term effect on the health and development of your child.

 

Best to avoid it.

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14 Warning Signs You Are Dealing with an Evil Person, Flee Immediately

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14 Warning Signs You Are Dealing with an Evil Person, Flee Immediately

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14 Warning Signs You Are Dealing with an Evil Person

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Life would be a lot simpler if the evil people dressed in full black attire and smiled creepily like the witches in the stories, and the good people would dress in bright colors with a cherubic smile on their face! But no, life is a synthesis of endless contradictions and people wear masks that are difficult to break.

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Evil exists and we don’t need theories to prove that, just a glance at the daily news is enough evidence. Murders, rapes, terrorism and what not! The common thing among all the criminals is their attitude – they do not care what happens to the world as long as their own needs are satisfied. This behavior may be a result of the environment they were brought up in, or as some theorists say the biological component does play a role. Experts reveal that the body releases oxytocin while reacting to something positive. While 95% of people conform to the norm, 5% do not feel the positive vibe.

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Some black hearted people seem to make this their life motto. It is difficult to distinguish evil because it looks “normal”; however, if you are associated with such people, you will eventually feel the toxicity and suffering rising. Be aware and let go.

 

1. They are manipulative maniacs

Black hearted people build their lives around one goal and they can go to any extent to achieve it. They do not care what others think or if they are hurting or deceiving someone. They will pursue the path if it suits them. They will manipulate others to get their work done.

 

2. They mislead you

They use gaslighting to sow seeds of doubt in a person’s mind, making them question their own reality. They not only lie but twist the tale to turn your judgment in favor of them. You will inevitably believe them and come to wrong conclusions.

 

3. They are not trustworthy

All their actions are a master scheme to drive you towards their self-centered agenda. You cannot trust someone who will manipulate and mislead you at every step of the way.

 

4. They cannot see the reality

 

Rather, they will not see the reality if it does not correspond with their needs. They will subtly make others believe in their warped vision of life too, to fulfill their demands.

 

5. They always think they are “owed”

Black hearted people believe they are special and that the world is a “wish granting factory.” They think that being themselves is enough and everyone will cater to their needs because they owe them.

 

6. They demand attention

 

They believe the world revolves around them and want to be treated differently because they are worth it. They will demand attention as they feel superior to others, without noticing their flaws.

 

7. They are liars

They are compulsive liars and simply cannot speak the truth as it will crack their mask of deceit. They will keep lying to cover up for their lies.

 

8. They live a double life

 

They lead a double life by wearing masks to fit their role. If you are beneficial to their being, they will treat you differently and if you are not, they will not bother about you. Their personality too is molded by their desires.

 

9. They will not apologize

If you believe you are superior to everyone else, that you are always right and that everyone owes you the best things possible, you cannot just be humble and accept your follies. Black hearted people never apologize because they do not care for other peoples’ feelings and they simply think they haven’t done anything wrong to apologize for.

 

10. They create their own facts

They will try to get the upper hand by making other see things through their perspectives, thus working for their welfare. They will alter facts and establish them as real.

 

11. They do not value your time

Black hearted people put themselves before others and do not care for other people’s’ time. They are just the means to the goal they want to achieve. They do not waste their time for others but demand the same from the later.

 

12. They don’t feel guilt or regret

They think they are above everything else and so nothing makes them feel bad. They do not feel guilty after using others because only the goal is of importance, not other people’s emotions.

 

13. They will often hide information

They will have to make others blindly believe them and to do this they hide information. They will protect their mask by tricking people.

 

14. They are irresponsible

Black hearted people do not think of the consequences or the long lasting impact of their action as it is all-important to them. They will be reckless and not care for the mess they create. Once the goal is achieved they go for another.

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Bandits Just Killed This Young Man

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6 Killed, Several Others Abducted As Bandits Attack Katsina Village (photos)

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Not less than six people have reportedly been killed while several others were abducted when bandits attacked Unguwar Samanja village in Faskari local government area of Katsina State, IgbereTV reports.

It was gathered that the bandits stormed the village at 5:49 p.m. on Sunday, October 24, when residents where preparing for prayer.

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Nasir Hassan, a resident of Daudawa, who spoke to newmen said the attackers rode into the village on motorcycles minutes before the dawn prayer and started shooting sporadically.

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“From what I gathered, five people were confirmed dead after the attack and they have been buried today (Monday) morning,” he said.

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Hassan, who is a student of a tertiary institution in Zamfara State, said the attackers also abducted several people but he had not ascertained their number.

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“They also burnt down houses and shops before leaving the village. I was told that they did not loot the shops, they only burnt them,” he said.

However, another resident of Daudawa, Auwal Liman, said the number of those killed had risen to six, including another person killed in the outskirts of the village, who was reportedly from Unguwar Labbo community.

Bahisulhaq Alhassan, a student in Faskari, confirmed that his friend was among those killed.

“His name is Jaafar Kabir and he was killed on his way to Daudawa from Unguwar Samanja.” Alhassan said.
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Throwback Photos Of Abacha’s First Son That Died With Dangote’s Brother On A Plane Crash In 1996

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Throwback Photos Of Abacha’s First Son That Died With Dangote’s Brother On A Plane Crash In 1996

 

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This year makes it about 24 years that Abacha lost his first, Ibrahim Sani who died on a plane crash in 1996 with other 13 friends of his including the younger brother to the richest man in Africa today, – Aliko Dangote.

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Ibrahim Sani was very wealthy just as a son of one of the top corrupt leaders then.

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Ibrahim who was just 28 years old was a lawyer as well a business man who was into a series of business deals.

The Tragic Death

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On that fateful day, 17th of January, 1996, Ibrahim and his friends were going on a jolly ride from Lagos to Kano for a party and family engagement.

He was travelling in the Nigerian Air Force presidential Falcon jet in the company of 13 other friends when just minutes to the landing at the Aminu Kano International Airport, the aircraft crashed and exploded mysteriously.

Ibrahim was with Funmi, his Yoruba girlfriend and a younger brother of Aliko Dangote named Bello, now the richest black in the world.

Bello Dangote’s death was described as a major shock and huge loss with Dangote describing him as the closest person to Dangote in the group and a ‘great thinker and visionary.’

The crash shook the country, and even the most avowed enemies of Abacha sympathized with him.

Little Throwback Photos Of Late Ibrahim Sani Abacha (Abacha’s First Son)

 

 

May their gentle souls continue to rest in peace 🙏

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